Anyone can change the trajectory of their life, at any stage of their life.
In Trap Tales: Outsmarting the 7 Hidden Obstacles to Success, David M.R. Covey and Stephan M. Mardyks share seven traps that prevent us from achieving our potential. As the authors share each trap, they share escape routes that will help you increase your happiness and potential.
I recently spoke with David Covey about the book. David is co-CEO and cofounder of SMCOV and cofounder of ThomasLeland. (Yes, he’s also the son of one of my favorite leadership and success gurus, Stephen R. Covey, who wrote the 7 Habits of Highly Effective People.)
What is Trapology?
Trapology is the study of traps and more specifically the study of the 7 common and modern traps (contained in our book Trap Tales) that people fall into in life and work.
4 Characteristics of a Trap
How do you spot the traps before you’re ensnared? What are the characteristics of a trap?
You can’t spot traps unless you are aware of what potential traps are out there. We often describe traps as “hidden” because we can’t see them—we stumble upon one and fall in it before we realize it is a trap. So, our book, Trap Tales, is a story of Alex, who has fallen into each of the 7 traps. This provides awareness of the 7 common and modern traps our society faces today.
There are four characteristics of the trap:
- Seductive—A trap lures you in unknowingly.
- Deceptive—Short-term gratification leads to long-term pain.
- Sticky—Like quicksand, a trap is difficult to get out of once you fall into it. It requires an unconventional approach to get out and stay out.
- Limiting—A trap holds you back from progressing towards your goals.
I want to ask about just a few of the traps. The money trap. What is money myopia and why is it so dangerous?
Money myopia is society’s unhealthy emphasis and focus on making money and placing money at a higher level of importance compared to our family and relationship. We see everyone else out there with more money than us, and we attempt to copy or mimic what we see them doing. We start to believe that the whole purpose of life is primarily about money, accumulating more money and showing off all the money we have.
Money is important, but it is secondary to our family and relationships.
Success Tip: filter out the unimportant. Detach from Minutiae. Learn to say no.