Learning to say I am sorry is more difficult for some of us than others. I’ve learned that the art of the apology is not as straightforward as you would think.
On the other side of the apology is the forgiver. That can be just as difficult to master. Truly forgiving isn’t just uttering a few words and moving on. We often hold on to the events, the past, the words long into the future. And they drag us down.
One of a leader’s most powerful attributes is the ability to forgive. Forgiveness can be a powerful opportunity for reconnection both with the offender and with ourselves. Learning to forgive can help a person move forward in life rather than becoming a roadblock to success.
You Can, You Will: 8 Undeniable Qualities of a Winner is the latest book by Joel Osteen. Fans of Joel Osteen’s positive message will enjoy the stories throughout the book of inspiration and encouragement.
A few years ago, I had the opportunity to talk with Joel, who is the pastor of Lakewood, the largest church in the U.S. He’s immediately recognizable from his television ministry, bestselling books and stadium appearances. Not too long ago, I noticed he has his own SiriusXM station.
As I look back on my earliest interviews for this website, I laugh. My first three in-person interviews included Pastor Joel Osteen, Secretary of State Condoleezza Rice and writer and producer John Carter Cash, the son of Johnny and June Carter Cash.
Let me be frank: I didn’t know what I was doing. I wasn’t a professional interviewer. My colleague, Drew Bordas, had vast video and audio experience. At that point, I think his total experience was that he occasionally videotaped his kids at home. Looking at this interview, I am thankful that Joel was so kind, so encouraging, and so forgiving to allow us to stumble through it. What makes it more remarkable is if you know Joel Osteen’s backstory. Joel is a true pro when it comes to production. Before he stepped up to minister after his father passed away, he worked behind the scenes and became a video and audio expert.
Here are some lessons I learned from that visit.
6 Leadership Lessons
1. Don’t condemn and judge others.
He says it, but my visit proves he lives it, too.
How often we waste time condemning, criticizing and complaining. It wastes time, drains energy, and is counterproductive.
Whatever you do, you want it to be in line with your life purpose. Observing Joel, I can see that he knows his own gifts and his purpose. He focuses his energy and talent on it. He genuinely wants everyone to have a blessed life, and he believes in the positive nature of people.
An organization with a unifying purpose will galvanize everyone to achieve.
As he says, “Whatever challenges you may face, whatever circumstances are weighing you down, you can choose your response. How you live your life is totally up to you.” His books are full of strategies on how to live a happier, more abundant life.
Words have remarkable power. Choosing to fill your life with positive, inspirational words is like fueling the engine of your mind. I believe that our circumstances can change based on what words we read, hear, and speak. That’s why in every blog post I try to pull out quotes that will spur new thoughts and actions.
Share a few of your favorites or stop by anytime to add one to your social media streams. You never know when a few words will be just the fuel someone needs.
“Success is something you attract by the person you become.” –Jim Rohn
A few years ago, I launched this blog with the idea of sharing insights, ideas, and inspiration. It is my hope that the lessons and ideas shared here help you in some way whether that is fast-tracking your career or overcoming procrastination.
When I started, I thought it was worth it if I made a real difference to just one person.
I’m happy to report that at least one person has found it life-changing. That person is me. I learn far more by sharing these ideas than you can imagine. What an incredible experience to have the opportunity to learn from so many people.
Thank you for reading, for commenting, and for sharing these posts. I appreciate all of you and look forward to getting to know you better in the coming months.
Below are some of the leadership interviews and posts with thought leaders from a variety of fields on numerous topics. I hope you find one you missed and that it positively influences your year ahead.
Charlie “Tremendous” Jones was one of my great influencers. He repeatedly said that, “You will be the same person you are today in five years but for two things: the people you meet and the books you read.” Every year, I am privileged to have the opportunity to read so many incredible books and meet fascinating people from all walks of life.
Last year, I launched this blog with the idea of sharing insights, ideas, and inspiration from many sources. On the one hand, I’m disappointed that I was only able to share a fraction of all of the people who influenced me. On the other, I’m glad that I started doing it because now, as I look back on it, I’m the one who benefited the most. Charlie was right. All of the books I read and all of the people I met did indeed change me.
Here are a few of the people who shared their experience and wisdom. If I can learn a fraction of what they know, I will be better equipped to lead in the coming year.
Before you start the new year, take the time to meet some of these people and take their leadership lessons with you. Instead of “interview in progress” you will find a “great life in progress.”