Encourage Someone Today

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Imagine waking up one morning.  You turn off the alarm clock and you see a little note.  It’s from your spouse.

It says, “You are the best!  Thank you for a wonderful weekend.  I’m the luckiest person alive to be married to you!”

You check your email and there’s a note from someone who works with you.  “I just wanted to drop you a note to say that your work on our project made all the difference.  You really nailed it.”

You drive to work and someone stops you and says, “I’m glad to see you.  Just seeing you makes me feel good.  Thanks for all you do for me.”

Rather far-fetched?  Can’t possibly imagine that scenario, right? 

We all need encouragement.  We just don’t often get it.  Even little comments can have a big impact.  Children all over the world are just starved for positive reinforcement.  A teacher who makes a positive remark doesn’t realize its power.  I bet everyone reading this can remember something a teacher said.  That need doesn’t go away.

What would your day be like today if you started getting comments, emails, tweets, or notes of all kinds all with encouraging messages?  Would your performance be different?  Of course it would.

Who needs encouragement today?  Answer:  everyone!  It makes a difference.  When someone reads a blog post and leaves a comment, that’s a great shot in my arm.  When you see something awesome today, let that person know it.  You may not realize it, but you are providing the rocket fuel of confidence.

Here’s your assignment.  Ready?

1.  Write down the names of three people who you want to encourage.

2.  Think of something specific.  What is it that you admire about the person or something he or she did?  Always be absolutely genuine.  If it isn’t admirable, find something else.

3.  Communicate it—now.  It can be an email, a handwritten note or even a quick phone call.  Don’t delay.  Otherwise, it will just be something you imagine you should do someday.

I’m sure that if you do this every week, you will find it a positive experience.  Here are a few things I bet you will find:

  • You will start looking for the good in people and situations, making you more positive.
  • You will be more motivated.
  • You will find that the encouragement comes back to you, too.  It may be years later, and you may find it return in different ways.

 

Do you remember something someone said or did that encouraged you? If you tried this quick exercise, what happened? You can leave a comment by clicking here.
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  • DEPLUME

    I didn’t know leaving a comment on someones updates, or tweets is an encouragement! WOW!

    • http://www.skipprichard.com/ Skip Prichard

      Yes, it most definitely is. And thanks for your encouragement today.

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  • Ted Treanor

    In a small business group meeting near Seattle WA, I prayed that I encourage others…probably because I need encouragement…often. 

    Skip, this is a great reminder as we reflect over 2012, and look forward into 2013. Thanks!

    • http://www.skipprichard.com/ Skip Prichard

      Thanks, Ted. When in doubt, be encouraging….because we are all in need of it. Here’s to your success in the year ahead!

  • http://www.inspired2build.org/ Bamba Baz

    Great article, just doing my 
    assignment right away. Every one need encouragement and do make sure to encourage as soon as the opportunity occur as it has a much more powerful effect  

    • http://www.skipprichard.com/ Skip Prichard

       I hope that the encouragement you planted comes back your way. Thanks for the comment.

  • Rego Bob-(Barbara)

    It is go great to see a leader in business be a promoter of encouragement to all.  I learned this at church camp a zillion years ago and of course if you are positive yourself it is easy to carry this encouragement to others.  It has been so rewarding now that I am retired to see a different set of others that need encouragement.
    My husband is the most encouragement builder and has been so wonderful with notes, surprises and just saying, You know,  I love you anyone could have.  Could have something to do with our long marriage and loving family. 
    I did your exercise and the rewards were amazing and brought even more joy than I had before using my old method.  Will continue.  I like to encourage those that are seemingly out of circle and can’t seem to get in.
    I always knew your efforts were wonderful and brought results and have admired y0u with respect from afar.  Keep up your encouraging and I will do the same.
    Thank you for touching my life.

    • http://www.skipprichard.com/ Skip Prichard

       Barbara, thank you for the nice words. That’s a huge encouragement to me.  Congratulations on both your retirement and your successful encouragement campaign! Best wishes to you and stay in touch.

  • MJGottlieb

    Gr8 post. A little bit of encouragement can go a very long way. It’s amazing to see how you can completely change someone’s mood from gloomy to sunny just by giving them a little encouragement and a pat on the back. The biggest differences I’ve seen thus far is when I am talking to and encouraging the homeless that I work with. Just for them to be thought of as HUMAN BEINGS can make the difference between them getting safe (and sober) though the night compared to running downtown to get high to make them forget who they are. It’s truly amazing to see the difference. Thanks Skip. 

    • http://www.skipprichard.com/ Skip Prichard

       Wow–now that is truly making a difference.  Sending you a ton of encouragement to keep at it.

      • MJGottlieb

        Thank you my man! :-)

  • http://danblackonleadership.com/ Dan Black

    Great challenge and reminder on the importance of encouraging others.

    It seems just at the right time, when I’m about to give up or be overcome with fear/worry, that some one encourages me to keep going.

    • http://www.skipprichard.com/ Skip Prichard

      I agree, Dan, I always seem to have that right person pop in when I need the lift. And it’s so often not someone I would expect.

  • http://joeandancy.com/ Joe Abraham

    Wow, I love this post. You said it – and said it well. Truly an encouraging post!

    Encouragement is contagious. If the boss gets a good dose of it in the morning, his staff will probably have a good day! 

    • http://www.skipprichard.com/ Skip Prichard

       So true and the reverse is also true!

  • http://intentionaltoday.com/ Ngina Otiende

    I feel strong, energized and ready to face anything when i receive positive feedback, esp from those close to me. My husband is my greatest cheerleader (God just had mercy on me). Thanks for this reminder. Have sent a quick mail to someone :)

    • http://www.skipprichard.com/ Skip Prichard

      Nothing like having someone close to you as your greatest supporter. Hope that email you sent comes back to you in many ways this year.

  • JaysonFeltner

    I love seeing leaders who understand the power of positive encouragement.  I actually did something very similar to what you outline here today.  My post on Monday is all about what happened.

    • http://www.skipprichard.com/ Skip Prichard

       Jayson, you have a wonderful blog!

      • JaysonFeltner

        Awesome! I’m very grateful that you like it. That really means a lot coming from you.

  • http://www.jmlalonde.com Joe Lalonde

    Great advice Skip. Something we all need to do but I find hard to implement. Thanks for the reminder to keep working at it.

    • http://www.skipprichard.com/ Skip Prichard

       Joe, your consistent online presence is an encouragement and something I admire.

  • MJGottlieb

    Great post Skip. Funny, I just shot something out to an old friend I have lost touched with about an hour before I read this… I agree that Helping someone is always a rush. Best! 

  • Mell Fletcher

    Is encouraging is a form of serving? I think so. And just like when I serve, when I encourage I get more from the encounter than the person I serve or encourage does. Amazing when you think about it.

    • http://www.jmlalonde.com Joe Lalonde

      I believe so as well Mell. When you encourage someone, it lifts them up. Gives them a better day. Helps them feel better. All signs of serving.

      • http://www.skipprichard.com/ Skip Prichard

         Joe you are a natural at it, too.

    • http://www.skipprichard.com/ Skip Prichard

       Mell, I agree with you 100%.

  • Steve Pate

    It’s an interesting human quirk that all of us prefer positive reinforcement yet the natural tendency is to focus on negative reinforcement.  Thanks for an important reminder!

    • http://www.jmlalonde.com Joe Lalonde

      Right Steve! We do the opposite of what we want to do so often. 

    • http://www.skipprichard.com/ Skip Prichard

       So true–how often during a performance review do we ignore all the “good stuff” and go right to the “needs improvement” section.

  • http://cindyhirch.com/ Cindy Hirch

    Encouraging people just comes naturally to me. I love when you get responses that let you know that you’ve made a difference in someone’s life.  I love to see faces light up. You never know, but your words may be the only positive thing they hear.

    Just yesterday I received a very unexpected email from someone who found me on LinkedIN. I don’t know her well, but I had worked a trade show for their company several months ago and that was my only connection with her. In my mailbox was a message about my performance that really encouraged me. It was so unexpected, but truly made my day.

    I did try the exercise you suggested, but it’s a little early for a response. -:)

    Give encouragement freely, but genuinely!

    Love your blogs Ship! Keep doing what you are doing. You are making an impact!

    • http://www.skipprichard.com/ Skip Prichard

       Thank you, Cindy. You definitely are a natural encourager. Here’s to 2012 being a year when some of that encouragement is returned in a big way.