My friend Ron Edmondson is a pastor, author, blogger, and consultant. After reading his leadership book The Mythical Leader: Seven Myths of Leadership, I followed up with him to discuss the many misunderstandings people have about leadership.
Avoid the Boss Mentality
I often say that leadership is personal, not positional. Myth number one hits this immediately. What are some of the problems with the “boss has ruled” mentality?
I so hate the word boss. Maybe because I’ve had one and, no, I never want to be seen as one. Frankly, from a purely practical standpoint, the “boss has ruled” mentality simply doesn’t work. It might get the job done for a while, but it will wear people out over time. We don’t get the best people have to offer because they will only do what has to be done to meet the “boss’s” expectation. But, I think there is a bigger reason. It’s wrong. At least from my Biblical perspective, we are all – regardless of title or position – ultimately to be servants of others.
“The culture the leader creates impacts the feedback a leader receives.” -Ron Edmondson
Myth number two says that if you’re not hearing complaints, everyone must be happy. Tell us a little more about this observation.
I’ve learned even in the best organizations and on the healthiest teams, the leader only knows what they know. And, people may be either hesitant to share what they are really feeling for fear, or retribution or they assume the leader already knows the problems. I go through seasons, as the leader, where I’m simply getting the required things done. I’m traveling a lot. I’ve got a lot of projects on my plate. If I’m not careful, I can assume silence means agreement. I must consistently be asking good questions to make sure I know the true pulse of the organization.
7 Myths of Leadership
Myth 1: A position will make me a leader.
Myth 2: If I am not hearing anyone complain, everyone must be happy.
Myth 3: I can lead everyone the same way.
Myth 4: Leadership and management are the same thing.
Myth 5: Being the leader makes me popular.
Myth 6: Leaders must have charisma and be extroverts.
Myth 7: Leaders accomplish by controlling others.