Don’t Let Others Determine Your Value

Coins Spilling from a Jar

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On my desk at home, I have a jar of coins.  In it is mostly pennies and nickels.  Today as I was throwing some extra change into the jar, I found an old buffalo nickel.  I didn’t expect to find it just sitting on top.

And that got me thinking.  Inside this jar there are likely other coins more valuable than I think.  Inside companies are employees more valuable than the company leaders think.  And inside of you is more potential than you could possibly think.

The government slaps a value on a coin when it’s minted.  A penny is worth one cent.  But did you know that a US penny today may be worth one cent at a store, but it costs more than twice that to make it?  Or that a nickel costs over 11 cents to manufacture?  The value of the metal inside is more than the value of the currency.

You see the label on the outside does not reflect the value on the inside.

Your Real Value

As you read this, others have slapped a value on you.  And you likely have accepted some value for yourself.  Maybe when you were growing up you were told that you weren’t good at something.  You believed it.  You may have been told you weren’t “management material” by your first boss.  Maybe you had a dream of starting a business, but someone discouraged you.

“If your dream is big enough, then make it your goal to become big enough to achieve it.” -Skip Prichard

If your dream is big enough, then make it your goal to become big enough to achieve it.

It’s A Choice

Here’s the deal.  That label that others see?  It’s up to you whether to accept it or not.  If your dream is big enough, then make it your goal to become big enough to achieve it.  Personal development says, “I’m going to become more than this.”  Soon enough the world will see what you already know:  You have what it takes.

Don’t let a label someone else stamped on you become your reality.

Have you ever been labeled? Have you accepted a label for too long? What are you doing to increase your own value? You can leave a comment by clicking here.
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  • Chris Burnham

    Great message Skip! I believe as a parent this starts early. Every night since my children were small I’ve told them that they were going to do great things in this world when they went to bed. I’ve always wanted to “seed” their dreams. Truly inspiring post!

    • http://www.skipprichard.com/ Skip Prichard

      That’s awesome. If every child had that type of inspiration, what a world we would have!

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  • insurgent

    Thank you very much for this wonderful post. I have always been labeled as a weak and ‘comfort lover’ .  And it has made me doubtful about my strength . I think you can provide me some solutions how to remove this label and become confident all again…

    • http://www.skipprichard.com/ Skip Prichard

      Thank you for your comment. Don’t let anyone slap a label on you. Loving comfort may be a wrong interpretation for serenity. Weak is often wrongly used when others don’t understand us. Take steps to make yourself more confident in you, and don’t try to run toward anyone else’s definition.

  • http://www.facebook.com/chancescoggins Chance Scoggins

    I can see why this is one of your top posts for the year.  In the end, SO MUCH of what we accomplish is based on what we believe, truth or lies.  Interesting that we so often give weight to people in our lives who don’t deserve it – many times, even strangers!  Great post!

    • http://www.skipprichard.com/ Skip Prichard

      Thanks, Chance. And it seems that most of us tend to gravitate to the negative labels. If we could grab onto those positive ones and hold them, we’d be in better shape.

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  • http://twitter.com/sparkvoice D

    Just found your blog via your Joe Lalonde interview.  It’s amazing how devastating lables can be to people.

    Thanks for sharing the thought that you determine your own value, and that you are empowered to accept or reject that label.

    I try to be consistent, accept responsibility for my actions, to give to others without strings, to learn, and to apply what I’ve learned.

    • http://www.skipprichard.com/ Skip Prichard

       Thanks D. It sounds like you have the right mindset for success. I’m thrilled you visited and hope you come back again.

  • Rob Gill

    Perfect analogy! At the same time I think if you can learn to be Constructively Dissatisfied with your efforts it will make you strive for something far greater than you would have ever imagined achieving which in turn increases your value as an employee.  Thanks Skip!

    • http://www.skipprichard.com/ Skip Prichard

      That’s a great thought, Rob.  I guess it’s the balance between constructive dissatisfaction and understanding your true value. Thanks for the thoughtful comment.

  • Andrew Mitchell

    Through the Pygmalian effect, people often achieve various levels of success based on the value assigned to them by others. 

    When people have others around them who believe in them, not just for what they have already achieved but also for what they may be capable of achieving, then they have a much better chance of truly meeting their potential. 

    In absence of that, it takes an individual with an unyielding will to prove his or herself to overcome the value judgments of others. 

    • http://www.skipprichard.com/ Skip Prichard

      Andrew, great thought. I think it takes both an internal conviction as well as great people who support you.

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1599157885 Kimberly Hawkins Collins

    Such a great read thank you for sharing
     

    • http://www.skipprichard.com/ Skip Prichard

      Thanks–please share with someone who needs to hear this message today!

    • http://www.skipprichard.com/ Skip Prichard

      Thanks for the comment, Kimberly. Louis is a very wise leader.

  • andrewmcbeth

    We like everything else in this world are subjective. Thanks for creating chatter about this topic Skip.

    • http://www.skipprichard.com/ Skip Prichard

      And thanks for dropping by and commenting. I appreciate that.

  • http://twitter.com/WickedSnoopy Joanne Hogan

    Thanks Skip!  This post is timely as I just had a similar conversation with my Godson over the weekend.  He is 13 and his Soccer coach labeled him as a “defensive” player and he really wants to try playing offense.  I have forwarded your post to him. Thanks again!  Joanne

    • http://www.skipprichard.com/ Skip Prichard

      Exactly! And if you can’t reinvent yourself at 13, when can you? He can do anything he sets his mind to!

  • http://www.jmlalonde.com Joe Lalonde

    I have been labeled before. And it has been hard to break free of those labels. But I’m pushing forward and through.

     

    • http://www.skipprichard.com/ Skip Prichard

      Joe, I like your label above “empowerer” “leader” “builder”

  • http://mariannregan.authorsxpress.com/ Mariann

    I totally agree with you, Skip!! Labels are always just the outside, and you can easily peel them off. “Value” is the entire universe of meaning and worth that goes on inside each one of us. So many people forget this truth.

    • http://www.skipprichard.com/ Skip Prichard

      Absolutely!

  • Reena

    Thank you!!

  • Acarson9

    Very good Skip!  Thanks.  And, by golly, I know you’re not a “spring chicken” but I find you wise beyond your years.  Cheers.

    • http://www.skipprichard.com/ Skip Prichard

      Thanks, Art. I appreciate the comments. Growing up my mom always said I was “born 50″ so that makes me…..quite old!

  • http://www.thecallofmen.com/ Scott Moore

    Each of us is worth far more than we know.

    • http://www.skipprichard.com/ Skip Prichard

      Living out your calling and your potential starts with that realization!

  • http://www.facebook.com/people/Christopher-Taylor/1582608794 Christopher Taylor

    Great post today! This truly hit home today so thank you!

    • http://www.skipprichard.com/ Skip Prichard

      I’m glad it is resonating with many people. And that’s because it is true. We too often let this happen, and it’s a good reminder! Thanks for the comment.

  • http://twitter.com/rclaywhite Robert Clay White

    Thank you, Skip. As usual, very insightful.

    • http://www.skipprichard.com/ Skip Prichard

      Robert, thank you! I’m glad this post is resonating with people.

  • Mary Mccarthy

    I was just having a discussion with an associate about my (mis) perception of her. This is a great wake up call for all managers of people. Thanks. Mary

    • http://www.skipprichard.com/ Skip Prichard

      Mary, you are more than a people manager–you are an awesome leader!