In a previous post, I shared how the joy of being right can often be wrong. Trying to be right at all costs comes at a surprisingly high price.
- We waste time and energy.
- We damage relationships.
- We refuse to listen to the other side.
- We cause others to stop sharing freely.
- We stop listening as we develop arguments.
“Choose being kind over being right and you’ll be right every time.” –Richard Carlson
For all of those reasons and more, being right is not always worth the cost.
When you are right, what happens? Others applaud your brilliance! They nod to you as you pass them in the hall. A gleaming trophy arrives for your new corner office, allowing everyone to know that you are “RIGHT.”
Ah, no. Not exactly. Pretty much none of that happens.
It’s far better to allow others to be right. Let little offenses pass. Save the disagreements for the big things.
“Celebrating accomplishments is one of the fastest ways to change a culture.” -Skip Prichard
That’s my advice for individuals. It happens in organizations, too. When an entire organizational culture is centered on being “right,” what happens then?
You will find a culture:
With more meetings. Instead of having a conversation about an issue, everyone works hard to be correct. That means that there are meetings to prepare for meetings to prepare for meetings.
With longer meetings. Everyone needs time to share the “right” point of view. Everyone needs the microphone to prove her point or to highlight his knowledge. And we need time to point out the flaws in everyone else.