There’s an old story I want to share. Like most old tales, I’ve heard it told in various forms. True or not, the point is a good one.
There was once a university professor who visited a Japanese Zen master (I’ve also heard this was a Buddhist monk, but you get the point). The professor wanted to learn more about Zen.
After welcoming his visitor, the Zen master asked if he would enjoy some tea.
Knowing he should accept, the professor smiled and thanked the Zen master for his generosity.
The Zen master disappeared and then quickly reappeared with two cups and some steaming tea. The master smiled back as he poured tea into the cup. The professor watched the cup fill, and continued to watch as it overflowed. He put his hand up and exclaimed, “Stop! It’s overflowing. You’re wasting the tea and no more can fit in the cup!”
The Zen master nodded and calmly explained. “You are here to ask questions. Yet you come full. You have your own ideas and have no space. Until you have room for more, you will not accept new information.”
How Full is Your Cup?
It’s a powerful reminder about preconceptions. We all too often have such strongly held opinions that we are not really able to take in all of the new information. That part is obvious.
But today I thought about the story in a different way. What if, instead of ideas, we thought about our relationships? How many of us think, “I have enough friends. I have no room for any more.” We hit a certain age and we are comfortable with the people around us. What do we lose by not making room for new people in our lives?