Clarify Your Priorities
Are you experiencing the highest level of clarity and confidence possible to pursue your goals?
Do you feel inspired and fully engaged?
Does your life feel like it is in perfect harmony?
“Successful people are simply those with successful habits.” –Brian Tracy
Most of us experience times when we feel like we are on top of our game and other times when we need to rebalance our priorities. How can we consistently stay in the place that works for us?
For many years, I have been a fan of Brian Tracy, one of the world’s top speakers with audiences exceeding 250,000 people each year. He is the author of over fifty books, including the bestselling Psychology of Achievement, which remains one of the top resources for personal development. His daughter Christina Stein is a speaker, author, and psychotherapist who focuses on work-life balance and female empowerment. The father-daughter duo teamed up to write Find Your Balance Point: Clarify Your Priorities, Simplify Your Life, and Achieve More. Recently, I had the opportunity to talk with Christina about their new work.
How to Achieve True Balance
What is a balance point?
We are all unique individuals with our own values, vision, purpose, and goals. Each one of us has a different way of achieving true balance. Each person experiences true balance when he or she is operating at their own unique balance point. Your balance point is a state of alignment that you experience when your actions and efforts are a true reflection of your values. It is from your balance point that you experience the highest level of clarity, commitment, strength, and confidence to pursue your ambitions, both personally and professionally.
You want your efforts to have power, strength and meaning. In order to move forward with focus and intention you need be sure footed and feel grounded and balanced. In martial arts before you throw a punch you get into the ready stance so you know you are at optimum grounding to have the most power and resistance. Your balance point is your own unique ready stance for life.
You say we can achieve a false balance. What is this? How do we recognize it?
False balance is incongruence with your actions and your values. There are a couple ways to recognize when you are experiencing false balance:
- You feel a little knot in your stomach all the time, and you’ve become so accustomed to this feeling that you think its normal.
- At the end of a busy day you sit down and feel as though you spent the whole day doing things and yet accomplished nothing.
- You are constantly feeling guilty about what you are doing and think you should be doing something else.
- Nothing inspires you. Your life is monotonous and boring, every day rolls into the next and few things hold meaning for you.
When you are experiencing false balance you may do things to try and feel better, things associated with feeling good and aimed at achieving balance, but it is not a one size fits all. Things bring balance to us because they address a specific need, and unless you identify what you need you cannot successfully identify the solution.