Happy Memorial Day

Don’t Forget

In the United States, it’s Memorial Day weekend. It’s a time when families and friends get together. This week, you’ll see picnics and catch the smell of hot dogs and hamburgers on the grill. Go to the mall and you’ll find a big sale. You may have the chance to catch a baseball game. The summer is officially beginning.

In the midst of all of this, let’s also pause to remember what Memorial Day really is all about. It’s about those who paid the ultimate price and gave their lives for our country and for our freedom.

My friend Lee Greenwood’s song, God Bless the USA, is one of those remarkable anthems that inspires patriotism and reminds us of the precious gift we have been given. Take a few minutes out of your long weekend and enjoy this song. I love this live version from a baseball stadium in 2001.

 

“I won’t forget the men who died who gave that right to me.” –Lee Greenwood

 

“For love of country they accepted death.” –James Garfield

How to Spot the Telltale Signs of a Lie

 

How do you know if you are being deceived?

Do you want to know when someone is lying to you?

 

“Lie spotters are armed with scientific knowledge on how to spot deception.” –Pamela Meyer

 

Pamela Meyer will help you spot a liar. She’s the author of Liespotting and a Certified Fraud Examiner.

 

Surprising Facts about Lies

Some interesting facts about lies:

  • We lie more to strangers than to our coworkers.
  • Extroverts lie more than introverts.
  • We learn to lie as babies by faking cries for attention.
  • The more intelligent the species, the more they are apt to lie.
  • We are lied to on average between 10 and 200 times per day.

Pamela tells one particular story that grabbed my attention. Koko, a gorilla, loved cats and was given a kitten. On one particularly destructive day, Koko managed to rip her sink right out of the wall. When asked about it, Koko signed to her humans that the kitten had done it. Amazing.

 

“The essence of lying is in deception, not words.” –John Ruskin

 

The Telltale Signs of a Lie

What are some telltale signs of a liar?

Meyer touches on some patterns of deception including verbal dodging and body language slips.

Verbal dodging includes:

  • repeating the question
  • telling a story in strict chronological order
  • offering irrelevant details

But lies are not only verbal; we can have body language slips. Meyer explains that liars:

  • chatter with their fingertips
  • shrug their shoulders
  • freeze their upper bodies
  • say yes and shake their head no
  • shift their blinking rate
  • give an overabundance of eye contact
  • show a smug smirk on their face when lying (which she calls duping delight)
  • point feet to the exit
  • place barrier objects between them and the interviewer

And a cautionary note. Most of us may read the book or watch the video, but that likely doesn’t qualify us to know for “certain.” Be careful when making your own conclusions.

Still, it was a fascinating view into a world I knew little about. These signs are not proof of deception, per se, but she says to watch when you see clusters of them appearing together.

 

“In a time of universal deceit, telling the truth is a revolutionary act.” –George Orwell

 

Interested in learning more on how to spot a liar? Check out Meyer’s book Liespotting: Proven Techniques to Detect Deception.

 

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3 Secrets to Cut Your Meeting Time in Half

3 Secrets to Cut Your Meeting Time in Half Photo

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Make Meetings More Effective

How many meetings do you find yourself in without a clear objective? Do you get stressed in the meeting knowing that the real work is building up while you are stuck? Does the meeting organizer fool anyone when he is unprepared?

 

“People who enjoy meetings should not be in charge of anything.”  –Thomas Sewell

 

Years ago, I was introduced to the concept of the “three P’s” at a Wilson Learning sales training seminar. It was introduced as an effective sales tool. Throughout the years, I have used the three P’s as a way to conduct effective meetings of any kind.  It isn’t just a sales technique.  It can be a way to save a lot of time and energy and focus the meeting on the objective.

 

“The least productive people are usually the ones who are most in favor of holding meetings.”  –Thomas Sewell

 

Use the 3P’s to Get More Done In Less Time

What are the three P’s?  Purpose.  Process.  Payoff.

You Don’t Need A Title To Be A Leader

Title Does Not Equal Leader

Titles are less important than ever before. I’ve long believed that personal power is far more impactful than positional power.

My friend Mark Sanborn has advanced this idea for years. His definition of leadership is broad, one that encompasses everyone in an organization. A leader is someone who helps “people and organizations surpass themselves,” he says, adding that the test of leadership is whether “anything or anyone is better because of you.”You-Dont-Need-a-Title-to-Be-a-Leader-135x200

Mark knows leadership. In addition to his bestselling books, he is one of the most in-demand speakers on leadership, customer service and team building.

Recently, I had the opportunity to talk with Mark about all things leadership. This 10 minute video interview is a great reminder of some of the most important leadership principles. We discuss the definition of leadership and two of the biggest pitfalls leaders face.

Remember: You Don’t Need a Title to Be a Leader.

 

Leadership Quotes

Some of my favorite Mark Sanborn quotes include:

 

“Leadership is the ability to help people and organizations surpass themselves.” -Mark Sanborn

 

“The test of leadership is, is anything or anyone better because of you?”-Mark Sanborn

 

“Leadership is about movement and growth.”-Mark Sanborn

 

“Leadership always benefits the greater good.”-Mark Sanborn

 

“Good leaders make heroes of others.”-Mark Sanborn

If you don’t know where you are going, you’ll end up someplace else.”

Yogi Berra